We often think that changing our lives is making one massive choice that shifts everything.
This is occasionally the case, but most often, the secret is a series of small, sometimes seemingly insignificant choices made consistently.
Every choice has far-reaching effects and, in turn, can instigate the most tremendous change for ourselves.
This applies when we aspire to introduce healthier ways of living for ourselves, such as having better-structured days to allow us to nurture our most passionate priorities.
It’s also just as relevant when we are trying to break out of old ways of being that are no longer serving us, such as quitting smoking.
It’s likely that at some point in your life, you have wished to let go of a habit that no longer serves you or introduce new ways of being to enhance your life.
We’ve all been there and will likely continue to find ourselves in these situations as we evolve along our life journey.
Having the inner tool kit to navigate ourselves out of or into our desired ways of being will save us significantly both now and in the future.
Understanding the power of our choices is a major game changer in this regard.
Let’s explore this further together.
Kicking That Unwanted Behaviour
We’ve all had a similar confrontation at some point.
Whether it’s quitting smoking, drinking or eating less, getting to bed earlier, or fill in the blank ________ for a discordant issue you can relate to…
Although there are always psychological and emotional issues linked to binding us to these undesirable behaviours, which is a whole other ponder (or series of ponders), when you break it down physically, it comes down to our choice of action to complete the cycle of the issue at hand.
You perpetuate the circumstance by choosing to light another cigarette, have another drink, eat another biscuit or stay up a little longer in that given moment.
If you choose not to do so, you will break the cycle.
Until we are able to face and heal the mental and emotional ties to the issue, it will seem much more complex than it is in physical truth.
I am not diminishing how it feels or how challenging it is to do any of the above, as I have been through them all and still find the last one incredibly challenging!
But once you have healed the mental and emotional components and broken them down, that’s what it comes down to in the physical: making a higher self-choice by choosing a different action in that critical moment when you usually wouldn’t.
In doing so, you break the pattern and allow a different outcome to emerge.
What Or Who Is The Higher Self?
Our Higher Self is linked to a higher mind, which is essentially our soul that is one with The Universe / Source / Creator / All That Is or whatever your preferred term is.
Our lower mind is our ego mind, which is often where humans make most of their choices if we live from our heads instead of our hearts.
Our higher mind is linked to our soul. We operate from our higher mind when we are living from our hearts.
It is undeniably challenging to live from our hearts on this planet, given society’s expectations and the various systems in place that continuously direct us to live as they dictate.
These ways of being automatically train us out of living from our hearts and into living from our heads, making it easier for us to comply.
However, as we awaken, we are able to listen to our hearts more and more.
It becomes easier to hear the voice and true desires of our Higher Self, which always guides us down the path of our deepest, intrinsic heart and soul desires, leading us to our ultimate fulfilment.
Living a heart-led life is often rife with far more challenges than when we follow the crowd.
That’s why most people usually quiet the niggling voices in their hearts nudging them In the direction of their true fulfilment because it is a lot more challenging to go against the grain, which is often where our heart, led by our soul, leads us: along the road, less travelled.
If it were easy, everyone would be doing it.
But now that more of us are awakening to our inner truths, given the current times, our Higher Selves' nudge is somewhat louder than it may have been.
The more we awaken, the louder it gets, and the more challenging it becomes not to listen to that Voice as opposed to the ego mind's voice that we have been so well trained to adhere to.
Every time we make a Higher Self choice, we honour our soul instead of our ego mind’s narrative.
“It is our choices… that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.” - J. K. Rowling
Walking Towards A New Way Of Being
When we want to make positive changes in our lives, it often feels like an impossible feat at first glance.
Yet, as we do with all seemingly impossible tasks, we break them down into a one-step-at-a-time process to make them manageable.
This is the only way that any immense undertaking is ever completed.
I have sabotaged myself numerous times by setting impossible goals that I could not meet. These targets were unrealistic, even though they didn’t seem that way to me. Thus, I set myself up for failure every single time.
We make things more complicated than they are. In essence, all we need to do is consistently make tiny, little aligned choices to nurture the results we desire into being, probably sooner than we realise.
You can choose to have one less drink the next time you are out, smoke one less cigarette during the day, or have a smaller portion of food for your next meal.
Make that choice consistently.
If you go to bed one minute earlier every day for 30 days, you will go to bed half an hour earlier than you were a month ago in a seemingly painless manner.
One step at a time can be translated to one choice at a time, and consistently following through on that one choice will overcome the most challenging unwanted behaviours or seemingly impossible goals from the physical perspective.
A collection of little steps makes big dreams become reality. For that to happen, we need to choose to take those aligned steps continually.
The question to ask yourself is: do you wish to live your life bound to your ego mind’s lower living or your higher mind’s supreme fulfilment?
The power lies in your hands.
Will you choose to stagnate or evolve?
Every Choice Counts
There are many things we can’t control in this life, but one thing we can control is the choices we make in every moment.
Every choice has more far-reaching consequences than we could ever imagine. No pressure, haha!
What choices are you making?
Are they ego-mind choices pulling you away from what you truly desire?
Or are you making Higher Self choices aligned with your heart and soul's authentic desires?
Whatever choices you are making, please don’t judge yourself.
This is merely a point of self-reflection: a chance to tune in with yourself and see where you are and whether you are happy with that or would like to make some adjustments.
If that is the case and you would like to make some changes, then make different choices next time around.
Easy does it. Be gentle with yourself.
You determine your life and create your outcomes with every choice and decision.
Every single choice you make has a ramification.
Each one adds up and compounds to reveal a situation or set of circumstances.
That’s how powerful you are!
Choose wisely…
Infinite Love,
Ponder Woman
“If you limit your choices only to what seems possible or reasonable, you disconnect yourself from what you truly want, and all that is left is compromise.” - Robert Fritz
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